May 2019

May 2019

It’s Matariki: traditionally this was seen as the Maori New Year. Now the seven stars of Matariki is celebrated as a time for new beginnings.

What if you were able to mark a date where you could let go all of the pain and difficulty of the year before and celebrate your own new beginning. We often use January 1 as a commitment to new or revisited resolutions. Have you ever started off the year full of promises and at times, unrealistic expectations to yourself, only to find by February you’ve let yourself down? Each seemingly impossible resolution further beyond your grasp than it even felt on December 31st?

April 2019

April 2019

My dad would have been 80 this year! Instead he died 22 years ago. At 58. And as I age, suddenly 58 doesn’t seem very old at all. I’ve worked alongside people older than that and none of them seem elderly. 

My mum worked up until she died; working with the elderly. Seems ironic now. 72, still working and suddenly she becomes sick, frail and elderly. My mum was gracious until the end. That word champions the grace my mother lived and died with. Thankful, loving, grateful and beautiful are all words that come to mind thinking about those last few weeks with mum. 

It’s left me with this wound; this undescribable ache in my heart that has never gone away. I’ve come to realise that the intense grief I feel for the loss of my parents is testament to the love I had for them and them for me. 

February 2019

February 2019

This month I’ve been thinking about purpose, achieving goals and what motivates us. 

What if our goals could be as simple as realising and actioning our dreams? Dreams are incredibly important. Do your dreams keep coming back time and time again, with an almost nagging presence? It’s probably because you’re supposed to fulfil them. It could be that something inside you is calling out…so listen. Often when you love to do something it’s because you have a gift for it. So pay close attention to what you love as you may be overlooking your greatest gifts. 

October 2018

October 2018

This month I’ve been looking a lot at self care and what this personally means to me. It’s different for everybody.

And I don’t want us to confuse self care with self pampering, which while lovely, isn’t what we actually need. Real self care often looks like the sort of thing we don’t want to do rather than what we desire. To illustrate this I will run you through a recent scenario which proved my point to me. 

October 2017

I've been doing a lot of work and researching the idea of vulnerability and shame.

For those of you that have come to a Healthy Living Retreat, will have been exposed to these topics and applied them to your own lives. My hero, Brene Brown has spent years researching vulnerability and she discovered that what underpins vulnerability is shame. I thoroughly recommend that you come to a retreat and dig deep into your own triggers to shame and stress and as you do, you can move forward having laid down the foundations to a happy and healthy life.